The Non-Wedding
Just like most girls, I once had this dream of my wedding.
What dress I will wear.
What colors I will have.
What flowers will I used to decorate.
What kind of cake I want to eat.
But attending many weddings in the past many years, I suddenly realize something: No matter how big or small, how much money was poured in, how much drinking and dancing were to be had, I only had fond memories of only probably three weddings. And I have attended a lot of weddings. Sure, most of them were fun. Some of them were terrifyingly boring or too emotional for me. One was just downright awkward.
I have thought it through over the past year or so. I realize, why spend $10K to $30K on a wedding
I'm eloping...
But I am throwing a small wedding party after the elopement. ;-)
Bottom line: It's about the marriage. I realize I shouldn't care about the dress. It will disappear one day. Nor the cake. That will get eaten. The flowers will wilt. The table clothes will get soiled and used for another event.
But one thing I do want to last is the marriage. It's a strange relationship between man and woman, husband and wife. It's an interesting relationship. As Paul wrote, "This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." ~Ephesians 5:32-33~ Paul knew the struggles between husband and wife. Women easily love. Men easily respect. Why would Paul write that a husband should love his wife and that a wife should respect? It's hard. Men don't easily love. Women don't easily respect (except for Aretha Franklin - R.E.S.P.E.C.T.!).
Engagement Ring
I never liked diamonds. Yes, they are nice and shiny,but clear and white (and kind of boring to me). But once a upon a time, they were not valued as they are now. I also have this fear that I will receive a blood diamond.
You know what kind of rock I want?
An amethyst! It's purple. I always like it. If it's lined with Swarovski crystals, I'll be happy. :)
Hint to men: It doesn't cost as much as a diamond ring, I swear!
The After Party
Forget the schmancy stuff. Since there is no wedding, there is no real reception. But there will be a party, none-the-less. With wings and beer and bar food. Beers all around. And wine. And maybe a cake, I don't know. :)
Okay, maybe one traditional thing: The Honeymoon
Yes, I want to go to Hawaii. And this is not a SNL skit.
Let's spend that $10K on the honeymoon. Get a nice expensive hotel. Drink all the wine we want. You know, honeymoon stuff.
Okay, now that I got this out of my chest... :)
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