To bring you up to speed: Samantha is a sports caster who covers mostly college sports on ESPN. In the news last fall, she had a whirlwind romance with Christian Ponder, quarterback of the Minnesota Vikings, and they married towards the end of the season in a private ceremony. I had often wonder (well, not really) if she would change her name since she has already made a name for herself in the world of sports news.
I made a comment on Facebook which goes like this:
Later on during the day, I was talking to a co-worker about a project and he gave me a new title (which every week he gives me some kind of new title; i.e. JCat is a current one, Ninja Cat, etc.) Then, it just dawned on me that somehow these two connected about name changing.
When Abram became Abraham
In Genesis 17, God made a covenant with Abraham:
4 “As for me, this is my covenant with you: You will be the father of many nations. 5 No longer will you be called Abram; your name will be Abraham, for I have made you a father of many nations. 6 I will make you very fruitful; I will make nations of you, and kings will come from you. 7 I will establish my covenant as an everlasting covenant between me and you and your descendants after you for the generations to come, to be your God and the God of your descendants after you."
In this case, God wanted to make a covenant (promise) to Abraham that he will be father of many nations. God was going to do great things through Abraham that God prompted a name change.
When Saul became Paul
Often times in the Bible, we see that names of people changes according to an event. Paul of the New Testament was no exception. If you don't know Paul, he was once a jealous Jew who persecuted Christians. He ordered the martyr of Stephen (Acts 7). But something drastic happened. God literally hit him with a frying-pan (or a bright light) and asked him, "Why are you persecuting me?" In Acts 9, you see that then-Saul became blind by the Lord and was left blind for 3 days. A conversion happened in Saul and he came to the Lord. Several chapters later, you see Saul (who became Paul in this chapter) was hanging out with Barnabas. God changed his name to the famous Paul who we know who wrote most of the New Testament.
And when not to change your name... (Story of Daniel)
It didn't say explicitly in the Bible but in the first chapter of the book of Daniel, Daniel did not want to defile himself with the wine and food that the king was going to give him and Azariah, Mishael, and Hananiah (aka Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego). I think along with the food and wine, Daniel did not want to change his name either as this is an identity he had with the Lord.
My point...
As I approach a stage in my life where I had made a name for myself in the engineering world, I often think, "What if I do get married? What do I do with my name?"
I think I have a complicated name in the world, for starters.
Josephine is the English name my dad had given me. He also purposely made it my first name, even though I was born in Hong Kong but he knew I was going to be raised in the U.S. Most friends who are born in Hong Kong just have a Chinese name. They later chose an English name for themselves but it is actually not a legal name. Josephine is legitimately my legal first name. I have a birth certificate to prove it.
Shuk Yee is the Chinese name my dad had given me. It is also my middle name.
Chan, of course, is my current last name.
Many of my friends have different rules when getting married. Some drop their middle name, scoot their maiden name to the middle, and adopt their husband's last name. Others will drop their maiden name and scoot the husband's name as their new last name. And now you see THE problem...
If I were to drop my middle name, that wouldn't make sense. Many Chinese friends call me by my Chinese name. If I drop my last/maiden name, then when adopting my husband's last name (whatever it might be), it might look strange. I now have a English first name, a Chinese middle name and
Names can bring about and define your identity. God changed the names of Abraham and Paul; he want them to identify themselves as something great and special, that they will do great things for the Lord, and to put away the past of what they used to be. But then you have Daniel. Sometimes, you don't want to change your name because you already have that identity with God.
Even God has a lot of names: Jehovah Jireh, Lord, Yaweh, Jesus, Holy Spirit.
Even Jesus had many titles: Messiah, Prince of Peace, Wonderful Counselor
No matter what your decision is for your name, know that when we become Christians, we put our old self away and become a new being. God's original plan for us is to have a relationship with us, and that our identity is in Christ. A spiritual name change occurs. We are all bride of Christ. A wife drops her name to change her last name to her husband's name, she become an identity of her husband. Just like this wife, we as bride of Christ drop our "last name" and adopt a new last name in Christ.
And yet, there are title. In an email with my co-worker, he said, "With all these titles, how do you juggle being such a heavy weight?"
I answered with some humor but ended it like this, "It's only a title, I'm still Josephine."
Then it really hit me that a title may just be a title. My our identity is in our own names. We may be mothers, sisters, wives. Or fathers, brothers, husbands. We could be CEOs, Presidents, or Managers. But these titles do not change who we really are. Just as God has many titles/names, His nature is the same. Just as Jesus had many titles, Jesus is still Jesus.
So, in answering my own question, I'm still Josephine, whatever last name I have.